Changing Minds – Accepting Others’ Values and Beliefs

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Values and beliefs are very deep structures and even intensive methods [such as brainwashing] can be insufficient to irreversibly change them. ~David Straker, Changing Minds – In Detail.

Seeking to change people against the flow of themselves is fraught with danger, relationally. So, then, why do we even try to do that, husband, wife, employee, manager or pastor?

These deep-seated structures–values and beliefs–are core to the people in our midst and they seem to hold them for their whole lifetimes. So, how do we work with these people in the ‘world of influence’ i.e. when we have a role to influence others for their and our own good; for the “team” goal?

The answer, I think, is to go against the whole matter of trying to influence. Our success depends mostly on the trust we have with people; how much they respect us, and us them. When we achieve these interpersonal results of positive rapport, and these people know our goals–as we seek to create influence, they will tend to want to align. We create alliances beyond the goals at hand; the bonds are stronger than the task within reach.

Changing minds comes notionally as a result of perhaps seeking the opposite–a totally rampant acceptance of peoples’ precious individualised viewpoints. How is it that we can achieve such an entwined purpose when we’re not seeking the goal itself? Perhaps it gives some credence to the fact that everyone’s values and belief systems inherently reinforce this one thing:

Everyone wants to be treated authentically, with respect and devoid of another person’s agenda. Everyone wants others to achieve their innate opinions. Everyone genuinely requires acceptance to truly thrive–in any situation, and yet this acceptance is quite simply the easiest thing to give. We only have to think passionately of the other person. But how many struggle to get beyond their own needs?

As a leader or a person of influence, surely it is others we’re in it for. Unfortunately, however, this is not always the case, and this is when we will get it all wrong. Achieving results against the grain is not only not enjoyable, it simply doesn’t work–not with sustainability in the long run.

We must start to trust people’s base values and beliefs without casting aspersions (either positive or negative) and seek to not change them. Other people’s values and beliefs are so very “them” they have nothing to do with us. Even if they did, we couldn’t change them. We can only accept this.

© 2010 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, MSIA, RSP) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min). His blogs are at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com and http://inspiringbetterlife.blogspot.com.

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“What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”


Many people I meet have been held back in their lives for fear of failure, so much so that they have stopped themselves from pursuing their dreams and goals.

Today just take fa few minutes to ask yourself what you wold do if you knew you could not fail, and ask yourself if today is a good day to take just 1 step towards pursuing that goal your have been dreaming of and making it a reality.

If today is not the right day to start taking action, then when would be a great time to start? 

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Telephone coaching has advantages

Personal coaching over the telephone can aid greater openness between the coach and the coachee. When engaging in face-to-face personal coaching there are certain situations which may influence or distract parties during the session. This is not the case for all clients but many people feel more at ease and able to communicate openly when they are involved in personal coaching over the telephone as they do not see one another thus bringing openess to the coaching session.

In a face-to-face personal coaching sessions some of the distracting factors can include visual things like what the coach is wearing or how they are sitting, the look and style of the room and the general enviroment, the ambience and sounds can make a difference, as can the temperature and some clients may feel uncomfortable talking about very personal situations that have impacted on their lives when sitting in the presence of another.  Face-to-face personal coaching requires a level of trust to be altogether effective. Without trust, the client may not feel sufficiently capable to dislcose the thoughts and experiences their coach needs to know to fully understand the situation being discussed. 

The great thing about telephone based personal coaching is that my clients can sit in the comfort of their own homes, office or another place where they feel best placed to open up and say what they want to. My clients may touch on several aspects of their lives when coming for personal coaching or business coaching and how their past relates to their current decisions may bring in in factors which are emotional for them to communicate. 

In such cases I definately recommend telephone based personal coaching sessions, especially for relationship coaching, confidence & self esteem coaching, and wellbeing coaching.

Much also depends on the depth of emotions the client experiences, whether they prefer to be face to face with their coach or not, and how they prefer with communicate to others.   Both telephone coaching and face-to-face coaching can work, it really is down to how the coach and coachee choose to proceed.

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